Conversation goes like this...
“I apologized! What more do you
want!”
“I accept your apology, but I need to share with you how I felt as a result!”
“Why? I said I apologize! ...then what’s the purpose of an apology anyway?”
Attractive Thinker Clarity:
An apology is for the ACT that was done whether in word, deed, gesture, etc.
An apology doesn’t dissolve the INTENT (...who the offense CAME FROM) or the EFFECTS (... the person who actually experienced the offense.)
So, there are three things at play when an offense occurs:
1. INTENT- the reason the offense took place-remember, reasons have roots, they come from somewhere and are not uprooted until internal work is done, OR the offense can happen again and again and again!
2. THE ACT- what was actually done, be it in word, deed, gesture, etc.
3. THE EFFECTS- the emotional/mental changes experienced by the other person!
Attractive Thinkers deal with all 3 components of an apology because they are conscious people who care about the hearts of others!
So, when a person apologizes, they are apologizing for the ACT! After that, depending on whether both parties are conscious Attractive Thinkers or not, the conversation can go
deeper to deal with the INTENT and the EFFECTS!
When someone doesn’t desire to deal with all three aspects of an apology, either they are not conscious, they’re embarrassed, they don’t want to hear it, they are surface type ppl and don’t want to go that deep, or they never considered how deeply a
person can be effected by things like words, deeds, gestures, etc.
So, if an apology turns into an argument, pause, assess which type of person you’re dealing with and adjust yourself accordingly!
Keep
your hat on, accept the apology, heal yourself, and move on!
The Spirit INFORMS! It may seem strange, but it will lead to all
truth!
